Change is certainly in the air. The autumn chill signals the start of the fall and all the things I love about being in New York City. As I pack up my Hamptons house (which contains enough clothes, food and supplies to last anyone else a year out here), I reflect on the summer with fondness and lessons learned.
Lesson #1: Leave your ego at the door. Let it go and don't say anything to anyone that doesn't serve you in the moment. Never assume people won't repeat what they hear. Let go of all anger; it takes up too much valuable space.
Lesson #2: Don't react. Take time to think in the moment and remember that every action has an equal and opposite reaction; not always the reaction you want.
Lesson #3: Keep your friends close. Embrace only those who have your best interests at heart. Let go of baggage and people that hold you back and keep you from your dreams.
Lesson #4: Bigger is better! Live big, dream big and go big or go home....if you build it, they will come.
Lesson #5: Follow you heart but be mindful of your gut. Listen to your dreams, interpret them in only the way YOU can. Heed advice from loved ones when you need to, but ultimately be your own therapist.
Lesson #6: Exude only positive energy. Remember Bikram says, "negative energy is 1000 times more potent and powerful than positive energy." Fear is only in your head if you allow it to be.
Lesson #7: Apologize when you're wrong. There's nothing more humbling than knowing when you're wrong, so say your sorry and move on. The universe will reward you for acknowledging your flaws.
On the eve of my 35th birthday, I would like to pay respects to those who have shaped my summer and my life. To my mother, Elizabeth, who turned our summer house into a "home" on every level. She slaved to make us comfortable and was the most gracious house guest I ever encountered. Mom, thank you for your patience, love and plants.
To Lienette, my first yoga mentor and friend, who took me in this summer as a new teacher and gave me guidance and a lot of life lessons that I will always be grateful for. Lienette, I owe you an apology and I hope you can find your way to forgiveness. If not, I will understand and always be thankful for what you shared with me. I will never forget my 8 limbs!!
To David, my brother (not by blood, but by friendship), who is one of the most generous people I know. Thank you for putting up with my neuroses and for joining me on this summer adventure. I will never forget our boat days and our unbreakable bond.
To Ronni, my housemate and friend; you give the word "classy" a new meaning. She is one of the most gracious women I know who does it all and has it all. Ronni, I admire your strength, beauty and endurance - you are a force sister!
To Rasa, my fellow yoga teacher and friend, who always encouraged me to do the right thing and lifted my spirits when I was down. Rasa, I owe you a few "paint the town red" nights in the city...
To Risa, my big sister (by loyalty), I look up to you in every way imaginable. My wish for you is to take your own advice and let go of anyone and anything that doesn't serve beautiful you. Your candor and friendship has allowed me to sleep better at night. Because of you, I have a "Plan B."
The crickets are out, the sun is setting, the party lights by the pool have officially come down and we're on our way to the "last supper." Let the fall begin in all it's glory. Welcome the change that you fear. Reflect on what you learned, who you are and who you want to be. Make your dreams a reality. Sometimes, all you need to do is let go to move forward.